One On One Coaching
Is This You?
In the midst of trying to care for everyone else, you can sometimes lose your sense of yourself. You can become disconnected from knowing what you want and need or how you really feel. You can ‘forget’ who you truly are and easily adapt to another person’s agenda - especially someone who is very important to you. You can be afraid to go after what you want or express what’s important to you. As a consequence, you may not be doing work in the world that is an expression of your values, your gifts, and your passions.
There may be times when your vitality is low because your attention is ‘out there’ in the lives of others rather than within your own heart and soul. You can be out of touch with your body and its messages to you. Your health can wear down from the stress of doing for others and losing touch with yourself.
Is It Okay to Be Yourself?
There’s a part of you that believes it’s not okay to truly be yourself so you can hide behind an image of being ‘good’, ‘attractive’, ‘smart’, ‘perfect’ or ‘successful’. You work hard at portraying that image, so much so that you can lose yourself in the trying. You are an achiever, working hard to prove to others and yourself that you’re really okay. You may judge yourself according to other people’s standards, afraid that you don’t measure up or that you’re not good enough. Their opinions may matter more than your own.
It can take courage for you to have a different point of view as you may be afraid of conflict and the possibility of rejection. You are very sensitive to criticism and avoid it by holding back what you really think or feel and ‘walking on eggshells’. You can doubt yourself and believe others have the answers for you rather than listening to your own inner wisdom. Without thinking, you say “yes” and have difficulty setting boundaries by saying “no”.
Who Are You Living For?
It’s often easier for you to give to others rather than receive, especially in the realm of love. You yearn for love and, yet, rarely feel loved. You yearn for recognition and, yet, rarely feel seen, understood and appreciated. You feel shame about aspects of yourself. You don’t truly see yourself so that you can deeply own your strengths and light; rather you mostly focus on your weaknesses. It’s often easier to see the beauty in others rather than in yourself.
You may have the feeling of not being truly ‘home’ inside you or seeing yourself as the author of your life because you haven’t claimed your inner authority. Blame is a place you can live because you can give your power away to either your circumstances or to others who inhabit your world. You look to others to validate you and work hard to ‘fix’ others to make your life right. You feel dissatisfied in your relationships and, yet, stay in a relationship because you don’t want to be alone. You may feel that you must rely on others for financial support or have difficulty setting boundaries around YOUR money.
If none of these are addressed, you can often feel that you live your life for everyone but you. Living your life for others means that you end up not deeply knowing yourself, a precursor to truly being yourself.
Find the Courage to Be Fully Yourself
What I’ve seen is that when you stop trying to please or take care of others and stay connected to yourself, you show up in a very real way. Your courage becomes more and more available to support you in making choices that are in integrity with who you are rather than adapting to what other people think or want.
Those who accept the imperfections of both themselves and their life find a true sense of well-being. This is because an inner confidence comes from feeling satisfied with all of who you are along with accepting your life just as it is. By accepting yourself and your life, you experience what is. You then have the opportunity to create what’s next for you from a place of gratitude and openness.
The Power of Wholeness
When you deeply know and accept yourself, you naturally move toward and attract how you are meant to contribute or that special person for you. Rather than “making things happen”, what you need is attracted to you effortlessly.
You may think that for your life to be your own, you must be single, independent and without children. What I have found is that wholeness comes from loving yourself first, no matter what, within a relationship. This is because it is in relationships where your ability to take full responsibility for your well-being has the opportunity to grow. So what I do is bring you through a process in which you learn to take responsibility for your happiness while relating intimately with another.
The Gifts of Being Fully Yourself
Here’s how your life would be different when you make the shift to claiming your life as your own:
- You take full responsibility for your well-being and happiness and own each and every part of you. You love yourself first, no matter what.
- You know intimacy by being willing to share your vulnerability and deeply listen so that you are able to cross the ‘bridge’ of connection from your own heart to another’s. When there is a quality that you want to experience from another, you become that quality yourself; then it is naturally reflected back to you.
- You set clear boundaries by knowing what you want and what you don’t want. By using your voice and acting in ways that support the expression of your essence. By taking back projections, that is attributing qualities, interpretations (stories) and assumptions to others that say much more about you than they likely say about ‘them’. In this place, your energy is strong, confident and vital.
- You feel a deep sense of contentment by knowing that you bring value to our world, contributing to others in alignment with your values and life purpose.
- You feel alive. Aliveness is about your blood flowing: feeling all that is there to feel, being in your body and aware of all senses, and fully experiencing what is happening in the now.
- With ease and joy, you attract abundance, that all-encompassing flow of limitless giving and receiving. The foundational belief that you abundantly live from is that you know you are worthy. When you deeply know this, you then attract what best expresses your essence.
- You deeply know yourself. You accept the lightness and darkness of being human. You freely express the true essence of YOU.
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See what others have said who have been coached by Jeannie through the ‘Claim Your Life as Your Own’ process, such as:
Jeannie coaches me to look into a mirror to see the depth of who I am. The infamous turn that made Dorothy of ‘The Wizard of Oz’ see that she always had it…home was always there inside herself and right before her very eyes.
You as a coach have given me courage to break out of the monotony of my job and get back into life on my terms without fear.
Jeannie has helped me to focus, to set goals, and to make necessary changes in my life while remaining true to my core values. She has helped me to go into job interviews with confidence and a strong sense of my own competence and worth. I am now happily settled in a new career and am grateful to her professional guidance.
Jeannie’s objective observations helped me to, very quickly, understand the values, strengths, weaknesses and expectations I have of myself and of those around me. Our conversations concerning the relationships within our organizational mosaic have been an immeasurable help in choosing the right path through some very difficult circumstances. Her insights have helped me to reach a higher level of confidence, objectivity and leadership.
I now have the strength to stay with myself, live from my core values and keep who I am while still bending with the wind, without hurting myself or my spirit in the process. I’m no longer rigid. I no longer have to do it ‘my way’. I give in for the small stuff and stay strong on the big stuff. I’ve stopped betraying myself and focusing on the negative.
I love the empowering aspect of really owning who I am; it makes me feel like achievement is easily within my grasp.
Your coaching has been a real catalyst to helping me to get more connected to me, to life and all that it offers. I feel the coaching process has really helped me to see the world and my life through different glasses and challenged me to really get to know myself, accept myself and take responsibility for my life.
Learn the Steps to Live Your Life as Your Own
So what I do is partner with you as a coach to take you through Six Steps to Experience Inner Confidence. This is done in a non-linear way, matching the stage that is explored to your own unique needs. Each stage offers a combination of new awareness and action. Click on each step to find out more.
- Self-Claiming – Claiming Your Life as Your Own
- Self-Knowing – Knowing the Essence of You
- Self-Intimacy – Staying Connected to the Core of You
- Self-Embracing - Embracing All of You
- Relating from Self - Being Naturally You in Your Relationships
- Contributing from Self - Work as a Natural Fit
People come to me saying that they want a better career or a more satisfying relationship, but when I talk to them further, what emerges is that they really want self-esteem – that sense of claiming their life as their own, knowing and accepting themselves, and feeling free to express their true self. From this place, an inner serenity grows that comes from being comfortable with yourself and trusting the process of your life. You then open the door to attract the best of life.
The Most Powerful Way to Become Fully Yourself
In order to claim your life as your own and become fully yourself, it is not only important that you understand the steps. You need to integrate each step and apply them to your own life. One of the most powerful ways to be supported in this individuation process where the rubber meets the road is to work one-on-one with me as your coach.
You then have a witness and guide to keep you accountable, to hold the big picture and intentions for your life, and to provide a structure to expand - all of the ingredients that work in making long lasting change. Reading that book or taking a new workshop can be inspiring, give you some new tools, and open up your thinking. Yet, they won’t make a deep impact on your life unless they are applied to your life on a daily basis.
In our weekly sessions, you will not only learn the ‘Claiming Your Life as Your Own’ steps at your own pace, you will have time to explore the important questions and raise the real-life issues that you want to shift.
What I’ve seen is that the people who make powerful shifts in their lives are those who work one-on-one with me for a solid period of time on a consistent basis. The ’Claiming Your Life as Your Own’ process has the opportunity to deepen by moving from the head to the heart and into action from a very real and honest place.
The purpose of one-on-one coaching is to meet your needs and wants so there are a variety of packages from which you can choose. Like many clients, you may decide to begin with a three-hour foundational intensive that is designed to jumpstart you in your process. In this intensive, you will begin the ‘Claim Your Life as Your Own’ process by making a commitment to wholeness and setting up clear intentions with tools that will uniquely support your journey.
Each fifty minute, one-on-one session is $125. All clients have the option to purchase a monthly package of two one-on-one, fifty-minute coaching sessions for $235, three sessions for $350 or four sessions for $460. Each package includes ongoing email support between sessions. For Canadian clients, taxes are additional.
The Time to Get Started is Now
You matter. Your life is sacred. You are worth the investment in you to claim your life as your own. Set up a complimentary consultation with Jeannie and begin the journey toward exuding an undeniable inner confidence.
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