Hearing those words after we’ve said or done something is not typically a great moment for us.
It can be difficult to admit that we hurt someone else’s feelings â€“ that we unintentionally, unskillfully hurt someone. A dread can come over us. Gee, I really didn’t mean to do that. I didn’t want to do it. I have a hard time admitting I did it. I behaved terribly. Does this self-talk sound familiar to anyone?
Owning the part of us that hurts others is part of the process of accepting our humanness. How vulnerable it can be to admit that we really didn’t have the skillsâ€¦the awarenessâ€¦the wherewithal to have behaved differently in that moment.
Admitting our vulnerability to the one we have hurt is a big step toward intimacy.
It is more important for me to be loving than right. I am sorry for unintentionally and unskillfully hurting you. I love and accept my humanness.
© 2009 Jeannie Campanelli, Inner Confidence Coaching. All Rights Reserved.
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