Hi everyone! Welcome to new readers, and welcome back to those of you who are reading the notes in ‘Claim Your Life as Your Own’ again - this month - this moment. My invitation is for you to take this time as your time.Digesting what is here for you by dropping into this present moment. Being aware of your breath, the sensation of your body as it settles into the chair, and any thoughts and feelings that arise. My hope is that you give yourself permission to open more deeply to any anger that visits you and find the jewel that is there for you to discover.
Anger Rising Anger is a feeling that is or has been a challenge for most of us to accept and express in healthy ways. Collectively, we receive a multitude of messages about anger being ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ or ‘wrong’. The reality is that we all know that acting out anger can cause problems in our relationships. We’ve been the recipient of anger that has left us feeling bruised metaphorically (and, for some, literally), and/or we’ve been the one who has expressed anger in a persecuting way and watched a relationship dissolve because of it. The voice of anger can be driven by the victim within us who then wants to blame someone else for our suffering. Anger rising might be a signal that boundaries have been crossed. Or that we are engaged in a power struggle - an “I’m right”/”No, I’m right” kind of exchange. Some people even say, ’I'm an angry person” or “you’re an angry person”, attaching anger to either their own or someone else’s identity. In other words, it’s like saying, “This is the box of anger that contains me/you. I see the world and everything in it through this box”. We likely also know what it’s like to work hard to suppress anger: afraid of the consequences; trying logically to talk ourselves out of feeling anger; doing our best to push it away like a meddlesome relative; turning away from looking underneath the surface of anger where either fear or hurt can live. In the avoidance of anger is the possibility of its leaking out onto others in passive-aggressive, controlling, and manipulative ways. Or the energy of anger remains contracted in our bodies and shows up as tension, aches, and/or pain. What is different when we give ourselves completely to feeling anger? What do we notice at a body level when we open our hearts to anger without resistance? Welcoming it like a lost child coming home…embracing it….entirely feeling the frequency, the vibration, the atmosphere of it? Trusting that it’s just a feeling that is passing through, separate from who we truly are? Experiment. The next time anger visits you, notice where the tension lies in your body. Place your hand there and breathe into the frequency of anger without the story. Give yourself permission to truly feel the vibration of anger - all of it. Courageously meet the anger that has come to visit, allow yourself to feel its full power. Then relax back into the chair and place your focus on your breath - the in-breath entering the heart and the out-breath coming from the heart. Notice the sensations in the body. Listen to the message of the heart. What is your life asking of you? Embracing all feelings - such as anger - in a compassionate and powerful way is a useful practice. From my own experience both personally and as a coach, what I know is any release can benefit greatly from the presence of a safe and loving witness who will hold the space for you to go as deeply as you need to go. In the spirit of being complete and not finished,
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