In talking about self-validation, it raises the importance of addressing the ego so that we understand the bigger context of how our minds work. Through this understanding along with simply observing our minds, a pathway to living from our hearts will open.
The ego is the part of us that wants to ensure that we have a place in the world. It looks for a sense of safety and feeling good about who we are. Because it's all about affirming our value, it can be judgmental - judging ourselves and others. And what our ego really wants more than anything else is to know we are loved. We will never give our egos what is wanted if we live in the land of competition, judgment, and anxiety. Finding our intrinsic value - self-validation - is what's important. Loving all of us makes the difference.
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