Loving

I certainly know that feeling of looking to another for validation, especially in my relationship to my significant other. This happens less and less for me. Now when I find myself in that place, I know that it's a cue that I'm away from my own center. What I've noticed is that when I'm looking out there to feel confirmed...yes, he does love me...it is all about me. And my attention is out there on him. That is not a loving place, and neither of us benefit. I write this without judgment as I simply notice my behaviour and name it honestly. Then I have the opportunity to choose how I want to be.

It feels so expansive and grounding to first focus on giving love and acceptance to myself and then exuding that energy outward to him without expectations. Our relationship then thrives.

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© 2009 Jeannie Campanelli, Inner Confidence Coaching. All Rights Reserved.

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