I quote from Wikipedia: "The Forming – Storming – Norming – Performing model of group development was first proposed by Bruce Tuckman in 1965, who maintained that these phases are all necessary and inevitable in order for the team to grow, to face up to challenges, to tackle problems, to find solutions, to plan work, and to deliver results. This model has become the basis for subsequent models of group development and team dynamics and a management theory frequently used to describe the behavior of existing teams."

I see this model as very applicable to all of our relationships. In our significant other relationship, we come together at the romantic stage. Then we move into storming as we work through how to function as a twosome. Once norms are established, it is important that we learn to claim our lives as our own and not get attached to “group think” which I call over-norming. Having the inner confidence to claim our lives as our own is particularly important at this stage of relationship. That means checking in with ourselves and ensuring that we are in integrity (a topic that I discussed previously).

It is then that we are able to perform…as a unit and as individuals. It is then we are able to truly share ourselves. It is in this place, we allow ourselves to let go of resistance and ask ourselves: What does Life/Source want from me in this relationship? And we will know what to do step-by-step.

Affirmations: I trust the process of my relationships. I listen to and live from soul. This is the truth of who I am, that which is connected to Spirit shining through me uniquely as me.


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